I AM UTTERLY DISGUSTED

[apolla]

I cannot begin to tell you how much this utterly, utterly sickens and disgusts me.

WHEN are people going to realise that 'real' does NOT always mean 'biological'? WHEN are they going to realise that blood is often the LEAST important part of what makes you who you are?

Fools, madmen and total bastards.

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[ladyaeryn.livejournal.com]

I read this on CNN a week or two ago. It made me go "BWAH?!" then, and it still does now.

Ugh. Of all the selfish things to put a four-year-old through.

[likebunnies.livejournal.com]

What made me totally furious is the biological mother made some comment about how the boy was 'going home now.' What the hell? How can home be some place he's never been with people he doesn't know? Home is with his parents, not her.

[ashleigh713.livejournal.com]

Hard to believe someone who'd do this could be qualified as a real anything, other than monster.

[annearchy.livejournal.com]

I think you already know how I feel about this kind of utter and total SHITE. The judge, IMO, is out and out wrong - though Florida could have some stupid law that makes this kind of crap legal. I know that in Texas, if a good-faith effort has been made to find the birthfather and he does not respond to repeated requests to find him and terminate his paternal rights, the adoption agency (or adoptive parents in a private adoption) can petition the county court to terminate the birthfather's rights. It happens quite often. I'm surprised that wasn't done in this case. Grrr.

[junesrose.livejournal.com]

Ok, I'm going to play devils' advocate here, because as we should all remember, the media is NOT unbiased. And, I'm not pretending to know everything about the case, because I don't.

I saw this the other day on the Today show, and the biological father was interviewed. The way I interpreted this is as follows:

(and, for all I know, he could be lying) he didn't know his girlfriend/wife/whatever was pregnant until she was eight months along. He received court documents requiring him to obtain a DNA test to prove parantage for the baby's adoption. THIS is when he found out about the baby. He took the DNA tests, found out he was biological father, and sometime after this, filed for custody of the child. Now, he didn't go into how this baby was adopted if he didn't give permission, but somehow it was. THe court system, in it's way it has of dragging it's feet, has now given custody to the biological father and mother, two to three years after the father started court proceedings. Also, according to this man, he has been seeing the boy every month for the past two years, spending time with him, so the child does know him.

Now, I'm not saying that what the judge did is justified, but if this indeed is the truth, then it truly is the court systems fault. If it has taken them three years to determine this, then that is absolutley digusting. It's practically taken longer for this decision to be made than the child has been alive.

I'm sure that this case is a helluva lot more complicated than anyof us have any idea.

[apolla.livejournal.com]

I agree with you. He should have SOME rights, and I'm aware that a short bit from Reuters like what I posted is bound to be missing a lot of the facts.

The fact remains that this child has been taken away from its parents. The fact remains that a judge has just said that adoptive parents should mean less in the eyes of the law than birth ones.

I sometimes wonder if my father is aware that I exist, or if my mother didn't include him at all in the decision to give me up. BUT I remember what it was like to be four years old. I didn't know a LOT, but I knew who my mummy was and who my daddy was. I knew that there was someone else in the world who had given birth to me. I knew who my mummy was, who my daddy was and who that annoying little git was (my brother Mikey!). I'm sitting here wondering what it would be like to be taken away from them.

He might be four, he might even know his birth father... but are you telling me he understands what's going on? This is ABSOLUTELY about this little boy and his best interests, and I agree utterly that this is a failing of the legal system, but unless that boy was in some kind of danger in his home from his family, HOW is this decision in his BEST INTERESTS?

The selfishness of humanity awes me, second only to the stupidity of humanity.

[junesrose.livejournal.com]

Believe me, apolla, (sorry, don't know your RL name), as the mother of three children myself, I totally understand what your saying, and agree with you that indeed, a four yr old child DOES know who his "parents" are. In fact, it's pretty self evident when you try to hold an older baby, let's say 4-5 months and older, that it KNOWS it's parents. I don't believe this child should have been taken away from the people who raised him either.

I was just trying to point out what a "FAIR" legal system we have (yes, I'm being very sarcastic here). I mean, I suppose, this biological father started proceedings in a timely manner, but you would think that if they would decide to give him custody, that it would be done when the child was younger.

Unfortunately, this is not the first case where a child has been taken away from the people who raised him, to be 'given back' to it's biological parents, and I'm afraid it's not going to be the last.

The only person who is suffering the most in all this, and has absolutely NO control is that poor boy. It's such a shame.

[apolla.livejournal.com]

Oh, I absolutely agree. The system has done this to this boy.